tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post3495218619578488359..comments2008-11-10T09:08:12.418-05:00Youhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09459982445578624501you@2ndperson.netBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-51359254081946134382008-11-10T01:54:00.000-05:002008-11-10T01:54:00.000-05:00What dignity was Aussie Bum referring to?!yet another black guyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04791087585412457689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-19684000509930177402008-10-02T14:55:00.000-04:002008-10-02T14:55:00.000-04:00BY THE WAY - who might these boys dancing on a table in their underwear be? Sporting some sunburn!<BR/><BR/>Why the frown?NPBPBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07266423592345003058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-46164349384835149712008-10-02T00:36:00.000-04:002008-10-02T00:36:00.000-04:00I heart NPBPB and Andrew! I love what both of you guys have to say. A well written debate. <BR/><BR/>As for YOU....I am proud that you did the unmentionable for the gays (being honest) when YOU said, "I don't think it's a good idea if we go out." You said exactly what needed to be said in a very polite and to the point way. It is not your fault that Aussie Bum went ape-shit on you. Next piece of advice...block his number.oboist24http://www.blogger.com/profile/14640850596084368406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-36806574213187962142008-10-01T18:54:00.000-04:002008-10-01T18:54:00.000-04:00"...but do think you’re worth a touch of my dignity"????? Ex-CUSE me????<BR/><BR/>Run. Run fast.<BR/><BR/>Mark :-)Mark in DEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12478832787656152843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-69018979128762361412008-10-01T16:06:00.000-04:002008-10-01T16:06:00.000-04:00Gosh that was scary!Alex C.http://www.blogger.com/profile/11182537227191470601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-59208335655905528092008-10-01T15:16:00.000-04:002008-10-01T15:16:00.000-04:00I'm with Anon (aka npbpb). This blog is not my life. Mine has never been like this. But I LOVE reading about it, especially when recounted by such an adept writer. You go You!Lucky Pierrenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-5451540778824931902008-10-01T13:39:00.000-04:002008-10-01T13:39:00.000-04:00Hi Andrew - this is anon writing back. You make some great points based on intelligent observation of both You's blog as well as your own many decades of living among shallow people and gays in NYC and beyond. In most cases I personally DON'T disagree with what keeps you (Andrew, not You) motivated, satisified and ultimately content. But that's just us, and we're not writing a blog with our own points of view - You is taking the time to do so, and we're guest readers.<BR/><BR/>I don't read alot of blogs - just don't have time for it nor the inclination - but what I gather is that blogs are the writers' own creations based on some proportion of reality. So maybe take this and other blogs with a large grain of salt.<BR/><BR/>Instead of people always asking this writer (You) to cut back on his drinking, have less sex, whatever - can't everyone just shut up and thank the writer for putting so much time and effort into entertaining us on a regular basis. FOR FREE. And beyond the entertainment, this blog has serious social anthropological value as a record of where the collective gay culture was in 07, 08 and hopefully 09. I am not the only reader who has found a few parrells to Miss Carrie Bradshaw circa 1999 (really Candace Bushnell circa 1990 but I digress). That era is gone but marginally well documented.<BR/><BR/>I suggest you read Faggots by Larry Kramer or Dancer from the Dance by Andrew Holleran as you may just be amazed at how little has changed in the NYC Gay scene/Fire Island since those books were published. And instead of people blasting You (Dana X, I am talking to you) for drinking, etc. - get a grip, get a grain of salt, and re-direct your efforts to making the world a better place for gay people so we don't rely on drinking and sex (and the gym, and real estate, and fashion, and whatever else people abuse) so much.<BR/><BR/>I don't mean to preach or defend, I just think in this Manhunt kind of world it's nice to read someone's account of actually going out there and doing things with friends, going on dates, being social, dealing with crappy NYC real estate, and otherwise (as far as I can tell based on me and my friends) living a real life and having a gay existence in 2008. It ain't easy honey. If you don't like it just go to another blog.NPBPBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07266423592345003058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-66335659596925062992008-10-01T09:13:00.000-04:002008-10-01T09:13:00.000-04:00Hi, anonymous. You are entitled to your speculative opinion on my life, which you base on scant evidence.<BR/><BR/>My own opinion is that my life (generally) gets more fulfilling with every passing day, but not because I drink more or have more sex. Life, for me (I understand this isn't true for all), seems richer when I'm creatively stimulated, both on my own personal projects, and in collaboration with other creative/thinking/risk-taking/multi-faceted individuals.<BR/><BR/>I see that this blog's protagonist probably has it in him to be amazingly creative, and it's my belief that he will tap that easier with a little less drink and some stricter standards on his sex life (and a little less narcissism).<BR/><BR/>This will probably happen anyway, though. It's just that when it does, he'll lament the wasted time, so I'm suggesting to start sooner rather than later, to mitigate the eventual regret.<BR/><BR/>Clearly, this blog could turn into a book. Many publishers will no doubt be entranced by the sparkle of the writing. Still, it's probably not a "book" until there's a change. Books have pay-off. Blah-blah-(blah-blah-blah-blah) blogs just go on and on. <BR/><BR/>And that's fine for awhile, but mark my words, there will be a change. Because otherwise, I guarantee we won't all still be interested in reading about a drunk fortysomething, and then a drunk fiftysomething, and then a dead sixtysomething.<BR/><BR/>P.S. Unfortunately, Augusten Burroughs has already kind of got the reforming gay alcoholic genre covered with his memoir, "Dry."Andrewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-59361363669517794002008-09-30T19:34:00.000-04:002008-09-30T19:34:00.000-04:00Quick note to Andrew - I know plenty of well adjusted gay guys who live lives somewhat similar to You's life. We're all pretty happy and having loads of fun. You's antics really aren't that far fetched, I think you probably just live a boring and dull existence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-67069877336289875082008-09-30T19:11:00.000-04:002008-09-30T19:11:00.000-04:00Ehhww! I'm hating this Aussiebum already! Run away for your life!Zhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01025767157342590672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-38877969050460210332008-09-30T16:24:00.000-04:002008-09-30T16:24:00.000-04:00You know, just when I start to feel all old and married and like I'm missing out on being young glamorous and single, I read things like this and remember a-way a-back a-when... <BR/><BR/>But I'd still like to be out, drunk and hit on.Jimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17510491840179413478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-89061021351263521722008-09-30T11:59:00.000-04:002008-09-30T11:59:00.000-04:00Seriously, blogger, you are the one who is the enigma wrapped in a riddle wrapped in tinfoil, etc. etc.<BR/><BR/>You are SUCH an amazing writer. You put your thoughts together so well, and it's train-wreck entertaining, and yet... your life seems so fucking meaningless and miserable.<BR/><BR/>I YEARN to find out that this is fiction, because I kind of want to know a writer who could pull off fiction like this, but I would never in a million years want to know someone like the protagonist of this blog.<BR/><BR/>(It's like that Martin Amis novel "Money." The main character is HIDEOUS, but the novel is so compelling you end up feeling empathy for him anyway.)<BR/><BR/>Please tell me you're the next Martin Amis, and this is not really your life.Andrewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-90289362866945313742008-09-30T10:17:00.000-04:002008-09-30T10:17:00.000-04:00Certain things should <I>never</I> have the current year stamped on them. "It's like an expiration date on your ass." <BR/><BR/>Same goes for screennames.The Blackout Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08890243610159076124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-13535754990909434642008-09-29T23:13:00.000-04:002008-09-29T23:13:00.000-04:00Oh my. What a crazy lunatic! After all that he STILL has the nerve to text you about getting together. Sheesh!Jeremyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14892074769172365394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-7923300285668757012008-09-29T22:04:00.000-04:002008-09-29T22:04:00.000-04:00Whoa Aussie Bum. I didn't realize he was so ridiculously obsessive. I feel like there is an Australian joke somewhere in all this mess that we're all missing...Not Yet Famoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08127970931034863629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-78026504645269224642008-09-29T21:55:00.000-04:002008-09-29T21:55:00.000-04:00#1: Forget what I said. Run backwards from the Aussie Bum, covering your lady bits (and your ass) as fast as possible. Hell, get out your rape whistle! Red alert, boy, go for Operation Survival.<BR/><BR/>#2: I just saw my blog in your "Blogs You Heart" and I just died and went to gay blogger heaven. I'm fanning myself like a southern belle, you just can't see it.The Fabulous Onehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11857727104777522497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4352388233541312686.post-76610768430958242922008-09-29T21:05:00.000-04:002008-09-29T21:05:00.000-04:00FA-reek show!<BR/>At first I was thinking the same thing - are you just turned off cuz he's interested... but eesh, that's a little creepy. Dude, you need to BACK the FUCK off.<BR/>Good luck next weekend, sweetie.Michaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14151283143693430805noreply@blogger.com